So, this blog was not supposed to be about my kids. Oops. Now it is. I’ve been thinking about my blog a lot lately (because it’s brand new!). I’ve decided that being a mom of three kids is pretty darn important and I think I’ve learned a thing or two about parenting in the past 6 1/2 years. I also have an incredible amount of learning still to do. I’ve decided that I’d like to share what I have learned and am learning about parenting with my readers. These kids are a HUGE part of who I am and why I do the things I do. They are why I want to change for the better. I absolutely know that kids work best with schedules. Before I had kids, I used to be an ABA Therapist, working with children with Autism. That is where I learned how much children thrive on schedules. Not just children with disabilities, but ALL children. I think that even I feel better when I have a schedule to follow. It’s best to know what comes next. My 5 year old son reminds me of this daily (or 50 times a day). He asks me, “mom, what am I doing tomorrow/the day after tomorrow/in 1000 days?”. I don’t always know how to answer these questions, but I try my best. It makes him feel more secure when he knows what is to come. He has summer preschool tomorrow, so when he wakes up he’ll already know what he has planned for the day (of course he’ll want to know what comes after school, when he come home).
School starts in two weeks (yay!). B is going into Kindergarten this year. He is super excited and also very nervous about what is going to happen there. As soon as I know his schedule, I will be making a calendar just for him so that he doesn’t have to ask me what he is doing the next day (although I think he still will-it’s a habit). He will know he has Music/Art/Gym, etc. I will have a separate calendar for my first grader, E. I am hoping this will ease some anxiety in the first few weeks (and it will help me to keep track of everything too). In first grade, E will be having homework 3 days a week! So that will be something special just for her calendar. I’m so excited for both of them this year. I love back-to-school, always have and always will. Everything is so new and fresh.
E and B are 18 months apart, so we had a very busy first few years. I was definitely in Survival Mode for much of that time. There was very little sleep. I can still remember waking up to feed the baby, finally laying back down ready for sleep when the second “baby” would wake up crying with a night terror. Whew. Glad we made it through that! Anyway, my third baby was a much better sleeper and has been sleeping through the night for at least a year now (you can’t get upset with me-I’ve been there too!). I feel like this stage of my life is a turning point for my family. We are done having babies. We are sleeping. We have energy. We have two mostly self-sufficient children who dress themselves, feed themselves, use the bathroom themselves, get water for themselves, etc. In a few weeks I will send my first two “babies” on the big bus to BIG SCHOOL (as B calls it). Wow. That’s huge. It will be just little D and I all day long.
I am a proud Mama. This morning I was smiling along-side my husband as we happily was watched our three beautiful children playing Legos together. Well, not all together, but E and B were pretending together and little D was beside them playing his own pretend play. All three playing quietly with the same toys. No fighting, just peacefully together. It was one of those moments for me. It has taken us a long time to get to this point (well if 6 1/2 years is a long time). My kids are growing up and becoming their own little people. For some reason it felt as if we’d always be making bottles, getting up in the middle of the night, and changing diaper after diaper. Now I only have 1 in diapers! Hooray!!!!! I thought I would be sad (I only cried a few times) about leaving the “baby” phase. I am a little sad, but I’m also really excited for this next chapter. I have come to terms with it and I am embracing the change. This feeling may change a little when I have to send my last “baby” off to BIG SCHOOL, but we’ll deal with that when it gets here. For now, life is SO good.
So there is it. My life and my loves.
Do you ever just stop yourself and watch your kids in wonder? Do you ever wonder how they grew up so fast? Do you ever embrace these moments and welcome the changes?
I’m so glad I do.
~Katey (Ma, Mom, Mommy, or Mama)